Asian Girls, White Guys
We’ve all seen them: small Asian girls with white guys. Some of us pay them no mind; some of us roll our eyes at what seems like walking proof that the white man is stealing all the women in the world. For every Asian-girl-white-guy couple out there, one more Asian brother is now without a woman.
I completely understand the sentiment. Although I’m able to empathize with Asian men who have to witness this pairing time and time again, I’m unable to see things from the perspective of the Asian woman who refuses to date within her own race.
Let me make it clear that I am by no means frowning upon interracial relationships—you can’t help who you’re attracted to. (Plus, have you seen multiracial children? They’re gorgeous!). I’m writing specifically about Asian woman who won’t give Asian men the time of day, no matter how good-looking, how educated, or even how wealthy he may be. If he’s Asian, he’s out. There lies a troubling sense of rejection, and if I find this disturbing as an Asian woman, I can only imagine how this mentality affects my Asian male counterparts.
The only legitimate excuse I’ve heard from an Asian woman as to why she refuses to date other Asian men comes from my dear friend, who so eloquently puts it like this:
“I don’t want to deal with a mother-in-law who is anything like my own mother.”
This is, by far, the best and the only excuse I’ll ever accept. (For those who can’t relate, Asian mothers are crazy. Please don’t try to debate me on this; I speak from 25 years of experience). This explanation is legit to me; anything other than that just seems like a slap in the face of all my Asian bros out there.
Why the adamant refusal to be with someone who shares your culture, your ethnic looks, your language, your values…need I go on? In fact, it makes more sense to bond with those you share so many similarities with, so why this rejection of your own race? Just imagine telling your father that you don’t see how your mother could have ever chosen him, or telling your single brother that Asian men are not datable. Ouch.
To all of my Asian bros out there: I hear ya. To all the Asian ladies who rule out dating Asian men entirely: why the hate?
You make it seem like asian guys can’t get women. Absurd rambling!
“To all the Asian ladies who rule out dating Asian men entirely: why the hate?”
Puhhhleeeeeeeze, there is no hate in having a preference. It’s possible that when that Asian women sees that Asian guy and she assumes it’s like ending up with her pops. Too familiar possibly. Novelty is an American blessing, so many embrace it.
“There lies a troubling sense of rejection, and if I find this disturbing as an Asian woman, I can only imagine how this mentality affects my Asian male counterparts.” Maybe it’s the Asian guys who don’t want the Asian women. It’s like getting into a relationship with their crazy mother, right?
To your first point: I didn’t write anything about asian men. This post is strictly about the Asian woman who refuses to date Asian men. I think that was pretty clear in the post.
To your second point: How many Asian men do you see with white woman? If those couples were abundant, then I would agree with you. But they’re not.